Sunday, December 16, 2012
My new year's resolution: none...
I am going to recommend that you do not make any resolutions for 2013.
Every year many people make lists of new year's resolutions. Making these lists can be helpful because they help you examine where you are and where you want to go, but these resolutions keep you living in the future rather than in the present. New years' resolutions are too long range, setting you up for failure. By March, most people have given up on their resolutions.
If your goal is to lose weight, decide that today you will have a salad and fruit or go for a walk. If you want to spend more time with your kids, decide that today you will go for a walk together or play a board game with them. If you want to change careers, decide that today you will polish your resumé. If you want to have more fun, decide that today you will go dancing or to a movie. If you want to quit smoking, decide that today you will not have a cigarette. We only have this day. You can only act today. Decide each day to live according to what is important to you. Tomorrow, decide again. Resolve to be better today than yesterday.
This is not to say that general long range goals are not important. They are. Planning to be married, graduating from college, going on a Mediterranean cruise are great goals. You accomplish them by proactively working on tasks that will get you to your goal, but only those tasks that matter today, that make sense and do not rob you of the joy of living this day.
In the end, happiness is the motivation behind all goals. You achieve happiness by finding meaning and purpose in your life. Do those things that agree with who you are and your higher purpose and you will find happiness.
Receive the new year with an open heart, clarity about what is important to you and the resolve to make the most of each day.