Tuesday, April 9, 2013

On assumptions...

How many times have you had an argument with someone because of something you assumed? I know. Me too. Many times.

Assumptions abound around us, yet it is in our close relationships that they are most troublesome. In relationships, we assume that our partner knows what we think, what we feel and what we want and so we don't communicate. We then get hurt when we don't receive what we expect. 

Why do we assume? We assume because we are afraid to ask questions and because we want to understand everything and thus create explanations for others in our heads. We also tend to assume that everyone sees life the way we do, that everyone thinks as we do. All of this assuming leads to misunderstanding, frustration and suffering. 

Today is a good day to value our loved ones and our relationships with them. Do not assume based on appearance, silence, body language, tone of voice or attitude. If you do not understand something, ask. You may be surprised at what you learn. 

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