It is so easy to be cruel when afraid. When faced with what may be perceived as an attempt against personal freedom, wants and wishes, dignity or when faced with uncertainty or major life decisions, it is easy to be insensitive and cruel. This may apply to how you have reacted under these circumstances, but I want you to think about how others have acted towards you.
Underneath most acts of cruelty in relationship lies fear. This fear may be about commitment to one partner, compromise about finances, having children, relinquishing dreams, realizing that love is gone, the dance of a relationship, accepting love, being lied to and other issues. The cruel reactions to these and other fears are varied. Silence, disregard, harsh words, infidelity, neglect, abandonment and inconsiderate behavior are among some of ways this cruelty is expressed.
We are all capable of reacting in terrible ways when something scares us. Our job when being mistreated in cruel ways is to remember where this reaction is coming from. This is not to say that you are to accept this behavior. Understand, have compassion, forgive...learn. Then release this person.
Today, see behind the cruelty. It has nothing to do with you. Cruel intentions are really a call for love.
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