Falling out of love

Falling out of love is not what we believe it is. Falling out of love is not a permanent state and it is not the cause of the end of relationships. Falling out of love, like falling into a pool or falling from our bikes, is a momentary event. It's what we do after the fall that matters. When we fall out of love we lose sight of the truth, we argue our points to the detriment of the other person and the relationship, we focus on the negative, we follow the wrong path. This is when getting up quickly makes a difference. When we fall out of love we see the other through a veil of ego-righteousness, what we fear most, our selfishness, what we are unsure about and our memory of past pain. We attack, we say unkind things and we become irrationally hostile. Very quickly we can go from resentment to anger to hatred and completely out of love.

Falling back into love is as simple as recognizing that we are acting outside of love. We can go from acknowledging to forgiving to peace and into love. This is not easy, but it is love. Today is a good day to jump up if you feel that you are falling out of love. Think that whatever you are thinking is not real. Soften your gaze, listen without judging, let go of what you think has been done to you, remember the reasons why you fell in love in the first place. If you are falling out, lean the other way and fall into love.