A time to be single...

One of the biggest questions I get as a soulcerer is how do I deal with being single? Most times I am surprised by who is asking the question. I get the question from intelligent and beautiful people. People who are not supposed to be single according to our society. Of course, I am learning to look beyond the egoic appearance. Looking at the spirit of the person asking, I am still surprised that they are single. I see inner beauty, innocence and potential.

I also see desperation, fear and confusion. It is the energy they are giving off. If I can feel their desperation, their fear and their confusion, so can others. Yet, there's no need to feel desperate. This is their time to be single, to make themselves ready. If they only knew.

This is the time to process the lessons from past relationships, learning from them and then letting go. This is a time for self-discovery and to figure out how they relate to others in a relationship.

If you have been single for a while, meditate on the lessons you have not learned, what you have not accepted, what you have not moved on from. Are you too critical, reactive, insecure, needy, demanding, controlling, selfish, passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive? Do you have fear of intimacy? Do you blame the other excluding yourself from responsibility?

If you are single, today is a good day to take your time to be single. Become that which you want. Be ready. Embody love. Be love. Be healed. Be pleasant. Be kind. Love attracts love. You attract what you are.

There is a time to be single. Love will come when you are ready. Any sooner and you will blow it. But once you are ready, love will flow...