Friday, November 30, 2012

Synchro-Destiny


I'm a believer. There's no grand puppet-master pulling my strings...nothing is set in stone. There are no coincidences. My life works as a series of answers to the intentions and desires of my heart...as they are aligned or misaligned with Spirit. Today is proof of that.

When I am clear about what I want, and this desire works for the best of all involved, when I stay in harmony with my beliefs and when I honor others, things go right and they continue to go right. When this happens, I am light-hearted and carefree. Everything just flows. People come together and circumstances line up almost out of the blue.

This morning started dreary for both the weather and my state of mind. Then, as I was driving in the rain, the most beautiful, rich in color, rainbow draped in the sky in front of me. It was right in front of me. I was driving into a rainbow. Moody, grumpy and cranky, I was so awed that all I could say was a whispered thank you. My thoughts changed. I started imagining this day with all sorts of wonderful things happening. I had no specifics, I just had this overwhelming feeling that this day was going to be great. I got out of my head and into the music on the radio. I put my money where my mouth was and asked to be led where I could serve.

I changed course and decided to meet with my friend Carlos for brunch-then lunch-then coffee. We ironed out the details of this great plan we have been working on. I went with no expectations and only my desire to be useful to the plan. As I drove away I had a rush of new ideas flood me, so I wrote them down. I want to do a book fair, was my first idea.

When I got to my office, I returned my friend Héctor's call, something I should have done two days ago. I shared with him my idea. Synchro-destiny! Two days ago I didn't have this plan. Today I do and Héctor supplied the venue. I called my friend Miguel to follow-up on something else we are working on-he got so excited about my idea and offered more help. I called Carlos back to tell him about the book fair and, of course, he had more help to offer. As the night progresses, my email, Facebook inbox, phone and text are pinging with news, referrals and confirmation about the event. People want to attend, authors want to participate, others just want to help. All is working for the good of all involved. And there is more to come, I am sure.

I am already thankful for the promise. Tomorrow will continue this domino-effect, more people will be part of this blessing. I am a believer that all of us involved in this event were meant to be involved and that only good for everyone involved is synchro-destined from here on out...

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Serenity Now!

Everyday we find ourselves in stressful situations and meet with people who test our patience. It is in such moments when our true character shows. We either keep our cool or show our butts. How we cope has an impact on those around us. We can make those around us fearful, irritated and confused or we can uplift them and make them feel calm by the way we respond. What is your attitude when caught in the daily storms of life?

When faced with a difficult person, don't react. Take a moment to breathe and remember that people act according to their level of emotional maturity and how well they understand themselves. It's never about you. Smile and see them through the eyes of universal love. You have no control over them, but you can choose your thoughts and feelings towards them.

When you find yourself in a stressful situation, try looking at it from a different perspective. Is there something you can learn from this? Breathe. Choose your thoughts carefully and be open to lessons and opportunities that may not be obvious. When you feel your temper starting to rise, take a moment to think about the situation without your emotions in the thought process. Think that this too shall pass. Any reaction that exacerbates your anger-screaming, blaming, raging-will only make things worse and will not fix what's going on in the first place. Take a walk, take a breath, say a mantra that brings you back to who you are.

When all else fails, scream Serenity Now!...just kidding.

I leave you with this clip from Seinfeld. I can't help but laugh out loud when I see it. It is one of the ways I cope...with a good laugh.


Coffee with St. Joseph

To love others as you love yourself...to love others as they are...is easier said than done sometimes.

I was in one of my favorite cafés during the lunch hour writing a piece that was due today. The energy at this particular place is great fuel for my writing. This café is full of friendly faces, enthusiastic students and vibrant passersby. I was immersed in my work when an older man slammed his coffee next to me on the table and announced he was sitting next to me, ok then. He wasn't sitting down just yet though. His coffee steamed waiting for him, somewhat annoyed at being slammed then ignored. A few moments later a very polite, younger man asked if he could sit on my other side, of course, please do–how else would you answer politeness? A few moments after that, Old Man returns. I call him Old Man because it's the most practical way of describing him.

With my eyes on my notebook and my hand fiercely writing, I went back to my article. "Well, this coffee is cold. Why would they serve me cold coffee?" Oh no, I have a complainer next to me. I don't engage. "I'm just going to sit across from you. I like the view better." He moves to the chair across from me shaking the table and distorting my writing. Really! Come on. I'm working here. I don't engage. "Oh, the view is better from here." I don't engage. "Can I ask you a question?" says the old man. Sure. "What are you doing?" Oh boy. This is turning into a conversation. Polite Man just smiles, albeit with a little grit in his teeth. He can see that old man is not very adept at social cues. I answer briefly. "Can I ask you another question?" Old Man interrupts again. Sure. "Are you this beautiful all day long?" Polite Man chimes in "something, something, something...dirty old man." They banter for a while. I try to go back to work, but Old Man decides to read me poetry. Enough!

I caught myself about to lose it. Old Man can read poetry, but not body language. He couldn't understand the tone of my voice-the one that says I'm just being polite, but I really have to get back to what I was doing. And just when I had enough of his interruptions and obnoxious comments I looked into the face of Polite Man and something clicked in me. I remembered. I decided to live what I believe.

I closed my notebook and finished listening to Old Man's poetry. I chatted with him for a few minutes, and that seemed to do the trick. His comments after that were not so obnoxious anymore. He blessed Polite Man and me, then left.

It turns out that Polite Man's name is Joseph, to me, St. Joseph. He is going into medical school to be a physician–the profession closest to God. His soft demeanor saved me from retreating into old habits of self-importance. Being in his presence helped me catch myself in time to offer respect to someone older, surely wiser. That split second helped me recognize that what Old Man needed was attention. Not irritated by his interruption any longer, I gave him what he needed-we both did, St. Joseph and I. Old Man left walking a little taller, with a smile on his face and the joy of having had coffee with a stranger and a saint.

...to love others as you do yourself is an action. It can be as simple as having a real conversation, giving full attention to someone, letting go of self-importance, being plain and nice...


Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Grumpy, grumpy, grumpy

I woke up grumpy. I woke up grumpy for no reason at all. I could find the reasons (the alarm went off right when I was sleeping, traffic was heavy, I had a long list of things to do, my hair had a mind of it's own today, and on goes the list), but I decided not to. That would have made me grumpier.

I jumped in the car and took my kid to school. He was just so darn chipper. He talked to me all the way to school and sang to me every song that came on the radio that he knows I like. Did he not notice how grumpy I was?

I dropped him off at school and then I stopped for gas. I went to the counter to pay for my fuel and the girl at the register had this huge smile and greeted me Good morning! She was polite and cheerful. Did she not notice how grumpy I was?

I walked out to my car and a man winked at me and said "Good morning! Oh, no, no...beautiful women shouldn't pump their own gas. Let me get that for you..." He opened my driver side door for me then proceeded to fill up the tank. What's with the niceness? Did he not notice how grumpy I was?

I was finally on my way when my phone rang. On the other end was...well...someone special. He was so gracious. "Breakfast?" How could he ask me to breakfast with this long list of important things he has to do today? Darn it, breakfast was great and the conversation was better. What's with the smiling and the sweetness? Did he not notice how grumpy I was?

I finally get to the office. Oh boy, I have to pay this forward. I realize that the people around me did notice I was grumpy and gave me all the love they could muster.

I am sure that everyone I encountered this morning could have been grumpy too, but they decided to change the energy around them by offering a positive and loving gesture to brighten up the day. So have I...


Tuesday, November 27, 2012

I love you...free & clear

We can cage a bird, but we can't cage its song...just as we can cage our lover, but not his love...

To love someone is to love who they are, as they are. Love allows the loved to be themselves-to think, feel and express themselves freely, lovingly and unabashedly. Loving someone lets them love us as they can, with no controls and no pressures. When we love, when we really and truly love, we are honest and sincere in the love we present...we become lovable, love-able. We don't earn love, we don't work for love...we give it with no conditions and in such a way receive it. Sometimes we get it from whom we least expect it as a surprise from the Universe. Sometimes a friendship turns to love, sometimes a relationship that started wrong mysteriously becomes a love story, sometimes a love you released returns and sometimes love just happens between two people in a relationship who decide to give up insecurity, distrust and the need to control in order to love each other.

To love free and clear is to put no demands on your lover, each one of you finding perfect safety and security in Spirit and uncaging unconditional love for each other...

Monday, November 26, 2012

I am me

Growing up I felt I was dumb, talentless and ugly. I can't remember a particular incident in which a person said anything to make me feel that way. It was a feeling I brought with me everywhere. It was awful.

I compared everything about myself to others and felt worse each time I did so. My name was so much different and uncommon that I even wanted to change that. I wanted to be more like everyone else. Silly, I know.

This is not about self-esteem or self-confidence. This is about not having an interior compass and nowhere firm where to throw my anchor. I didn't know my nature, which is the same nature as everyone I compared myself with. It is the same as your nature. I didn't know that in a sense I was like everyone else: special.

Our nature is divine. We are a portion of Spirit without limitations and with an unlimited supply of resources, guidance and help. We are a portion of Spirit and our nature is to love...ourselves and others. We are not what we do, what we have, our bodies, what people think of us or what happens to us. We are a portion of Spirit and Spirit leads us where we are needed in order to fulfill our purpose.

I am now anchored. I am aligned to Spirit, who is unchanging. This helps me to go with the flow knowing that everything is as it should be. I don't compare myself anymore because I learned that I am me...unique in my talents and what I can contribute. I don't resist what makes me excited because this is Spirit's way of moving me in the right direction. I do what I am supposed to with enthusiasm. I also meditate, listen, pay attention to signs and messages, stay aligned to my Source, stay attuned to my intuition and I act. With this focus on my true self, the opinion of others does not matter, I feel secure, creative, loving and less concerned with having a plan. I bring this with me everywhere I go.

I am intelligent, talented and beautiful...and so are you.

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Stuck in my head

867-5309, 867-5309...remember that song? Poor Jenny. She had this guy obsessing over her. Poor us. After we listen to this song, we can't get it out of our heads.

Obsessive thoughts are like this, like a song stuck in our heads, they go round and round compulsively. This is not about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), this is about ruminating thoughts that keep us down, thoughts that keep us from enjoying this moment, thoughts that keep us in the past or worried about the future and thoughts about situations we cannot control.



This type of obsessive thought is fear based. When you think this way, you go over and over the same thoughts in your head because you are afraid of something. You are afraid of what the future may bring or you are afraid of the results of decisions you have already made, among other things. What does your body do when you're afraid? It gears up for a fight. Your body sends epinephrine, norepinephrine, cortisol and stress hormones to jump start you into action. Since you are not in danger, and these hormones are in your system, your stress and anxiety are increased. This is just not healthy. At this level of stress, the best way for you to burn off these chemicals is through exercise. Once you are calmer, meditation will help channel those thoughts.

To deal with obsessive thoughts in a more proactive way, try a morning journal. Let your thoughts go wild on paper in this journal. Write fifteen minutes of train of thought each morning. Give yourself permission to obsess over what is bothering you with the condition that this is the only time in your day you will do it. Then let it go.

The next time your thoughts start going round like a broken record, choose another thought, smell the air, feel the space you are in...use your senses to bring you back into this moment...and get that old song out of your head...

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Of friends and lovers

Are you lonely? Is your list of friends short? Do you feel incomplete because you are not in a romantic relationship? Are you looking for love? Then stop.

If you are looking for love then you are looking for what you feel you are missing. You are putting out there the message that you are lacking. You are then attracting that lack back into your life. When you are in search of love, you are giving out this energy of desperation, need and insecurity. This is not what you think you are looking for, but it is what you'll get. 

Love attracts love. You are love. Act like it. Live it! Be what you are seeking. Bring with you harmony, respect, freedom, loyalty, happiness, dignity, security, kindness and joy everywhere you go to everyone you meet without expecting anything in return. Think in terms of "I know the right person is coming at the right time." Set your intention and let it go...

Friends and lovers come and go...in between there's always you. You are complete. 



Friday, November 23, 2012

Nothing's gonna change my world


A while back, someone I love very much was going through a very tough process. She remembers with such love one particular moment she went through during the prescribed course of action she had to endure. She got through it while singing The Beatles' Across The Universe. The chorus to this beautiful song, "nothing's gonna change my world...nothing's gonna change my world...", helped her decide that regardless of what happened from that point forward, she would be ok. A-ha!

This is wisdom...the kind found by making peace with uncertainty. She understood in that very moment that having a rigid attachment to a particular result would shut out possibilities, and make her feel disappointed, helpless, hopeless and desperate. She surrendered to Spirit and let go...

Faced with uncertainty, hold on to the belief that there's a superior intelligence at work. It is a permanent intelligence. It is your Source, your Creator. When your world's internal reference point is grounded on this divine consciousness, it cannot be changed even if circumstances do. Allow God to act without your intervention. Open your heart to possibilities beyond your imagination. Do your due diligence and have faith. This is all you can do.

You are loved and protected. Regardless of what happens, you will be ok. Nothing's going to change your world...


Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Gratitude...fake it 'til you make it...

I wholeheartedly believe that being in a state of gratitude changes everything. However, I acknowledge that if life is rough for you right now, finding things to be grateful for can be difficult. I also know that you may actually just not want to be grateful right now.

Being grateful does not deny the hardships you may be going through, it doesn't change the way things are and it doesn't blind you to the struggles of the world. Yet being grateful does change your mood and your general feeling about life. Being grateful also moves your ego out of the way, accepts who you are, how things are and where you are-helping you live in this very moment.

When you move into gratitude, you open your heart, your awareness and your attitude to give thanks...and to receive them, to see inspiration, and to receive guidance and help. Being grateful, you may actually move forward from where you are stuck and find solutions to your problems.

You don't have to start by blessing your bankruptcy, your layoff, your failed marriage, your illness and such. You can start by pushing yourself a little...fake being thankful until you make it. Start by giving thanks for your morning coffee, for good music on the radio, for the kind smile a stranger offered. Once you start experiencing a lift in your mood, you will grow your list.

Today is a good day to be grateful. I am starting my list:

  1. I am grateful for you...



There's no secret

Ask...wish with all your might...and only keep your thoughts on your desires. This is the secret to getting all you want. Is it?

The law of attraction states that like attracts like. The truth, then, is that you don't attract what you want, you attract what you are. This is why your thoughts are so important. They become your actions, your character and who you are. Be careful. Selfish thoughts will not yield your wishes. I want, I want, I want will attract messages of I want from the same cosmos you are asking something of. Then the cosmos will make demands of you. If you think in terms of what's wrong, what's lacking, your limitations, distrust and such, then you will get like messages in return and attract more of the same into your life.

On the other hand, if you offer of yourself, the universe will offer back to you. When you start serving and helping others by sharing your gifts, the most amazing things start to happen. Synchronistically, doors start to open, the right opportunities appear, the right people show up, guidance materializes and solutions become clear for you. You collaborate with the fulfillment of your destiny when you allow Spirit to work through you, when you ask with an open heart where you may serve and how you may help. When you forget about what's in it for you, then your dreams start to come true. It's no secret.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Suffering

Suffering is the mental state in which we respond negatively to pain, to the perception of being hurt or to the threat of being hurt. Pain is not suffering. Pain is a sensation. We tend to use these terms interchangeably, yet suffering and pain are not the same.

In suffering we experience negative thoughts, emotions and actions which we feel are the proper and expected responses to whatever we perceive is the source of our suffering. In other words, our form of suffering is learned and it is in our minds. 

We suffer because we forget who we are, because we identify with our self-image, because we cling to things and ideas, and because we are fearful. Thoughts of despair, self-pity, entitlement, attachment, lack, the opinion of others, unrealistic expectations, that we are alone in whatever we are going through, and other such negative beliefs keep us suffering. This is not something to take lightly and it is not something we "cure" with a positive thought. Suffering is an emotional habit that we can heal by opening up to our Creator. Spirit will do its healing while we do our part - which is to stay aligned to our Source and to not perpetuate the thoughts that keep us suffering. 

Suffering can make us more kind, understanding and compassionate, and for that we can be thankful. Other than that, it serves us no purpose. It keeps us down. For now, opt out of the common attitudes of suffering, put things in perspective and trust in your nature. It takes tremendous discipline to change our way of thinking, but we need to do it if we want our suffering to stop. 


Monday, November 19, 2012

What's in it for you...

Abundance is that state you live in when you have everything you want and everything you need. When you align your thoughts, your actions, what you believe in and what you expect with your divine Spirit, then everything you want and wish for and everything you need comes your way.

To live abundantly, go beyond your ego (What's in it for me?), figure out what you are best at, what your unique talents are (this is what you have to offer), and put yourself at the service of others (How may I serve? How can I help?). You will then have effortless access to unlimited abundance.

I experience an amazing shift in feeling when I concern myself with the needs of others. When I put my talents to work for others without regard to what benefit I may gain or what kind of thanks or recognition I may receive, my worries about myself melt away. I have abundance and live joyfully.

You too can enjoy a smooth stream of blessings when you fulfill your purpose and use your special skills for the benefit of others. What's in it for you? Everything...


Sunday, November 18, 2012

The blessing of chores

Every blessing comes with responsibilities. Cars need to be maintained, laundry needs to be washed, homes need to be taken care of.

As Sunday greets us, in the midst of our busy life, there is still so much to do before the new week rolls in. Since you have this laundry-list of housework to do, why not do it as a thankful gesture for the bounty that you enjoy? ... An offering of gratitude...

Everything of value takes effort. Make that effort with the best attitude possible. Washing dishes can be its own form of meditation. Grocery shopping can be a prayerful reflection on those who have less. Sweeping and mopping can be a contemplation of how fortunate you really are. In all, do it with joy, turn up the music, involve the kids and have some fun. This is the blessing of doing chores.


Friday, November 16, 2012

Who are you?


I have good news for you! You were perfectly designed to live this life as you. There was no mistake made. You were equipped with the exact body, mind and spirit to be you. You were not set-up for failure. Everything you need to survive and to thrive is in you. 

In fact, you were conceived with such love, respect and devotion that you were created with the freedom to think, feel, believe and act. There's no grand puppet master. Who you are today is who you are as result of your choices, your thoughts and your actions up until this moment. 

There is no one like you. You are beyond comparison. You are wonderful, talented and beautiful. You were dreamed up to learn and to teach, to love and to give, to share. It's all a matter of honoring your essence–of living up to the special gifts you were infused with and loving others, recognizing that they were ideally made as well. Caterpillars really are butterflies. 

In the midst of life–of good spirits, happy moments, chaos, despair, uncertainty, contentment, confusion, ups and downs–remember who you are. Alice in Wonderland does not know who she is, but you will remember who you are. Who you are is great. You are perfectly imperfect by design. 


Thursday, November 15, 2012

Be selfish...forgive

Forgiveness is nothing more than a healing balm for a wound, a remedy for an illness that keeps you feeling sick and keeps you susceptible to staying sick. Not forgiving is like picking at a wound-it will never heal.

Holding on to a grudge keeps your fists closed around the grievance. Remembering the injury keeps you bound to it making life hell-you relive the moment over and over again. That's hell.

To be hurt by what someone has done to you is ok, but to want to stay hurt is not. Staying in this hurtful state will make you bitter-it will make today bitter and your future days bitter as well.

To move from being wounded to healed, bless both the situation and the offender. Forgiveness does not change the past...it changes you. You go from carrying around anger and indignation to finding freedom. When you forgive, you free yourself from the awful job of judging and blaming, you free your time and your thoughts, you free your heart for harmony and peace.

Open your fists and release the grudge. With your hands and your heart empty of resentment, you now have room for laughter, feelings of joy, love and the forgiveness of others.

If you don't want to care about the wrong someone did to you, if you don't want it to matter anymore, if you want to be peaceful, then be selfish...forgive.


Wednesday, November 14, 2012

You get what you want...and what you don't

Everything begins with a thought...every thing, every experience. When you think about something, you start in motion a sequence of events that will attract what you are thinking about-whether it is good or bad. Have you heard someone say "With my luck, I will strike out." and they do? It's not a coincidence. The more you think about something, the likelier it is to happen. That is because you act upon your thoughts. Your mind does not know the difference between what you want and what you don't. All your mind sees are your thoughts. If you think about great opportunities you are passionate about, you will start manifesting these opportunities. If you think about problems you don't want in your life, you will start materializing them as well.

Shift your focus from what you don't want to what you do want in your life. If you are in poor health, think thoughts of health (not disease). If you are in a financial slump, think thoughts of prosperity (not scarcity). If you are in relationship limbo, think thoughts of love (not dissatisfaction). You get the picture. 

Keep your thoughts on what you want in your life...and get what you want.



Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Happiness is a choice

Happiness is a choice. I learned this from my son when he was only four years old. Today, seven years later, I struggle to remember this lesson learned in the cutest way–a chubby faced angel walks into a moment of frustration, shrugs his shoulders, puts his hands up as though offering a gift and says: "Just be happy!"–and I got it. I got it! As though his words came with an invisible explanation behind them.  I am sure that's that wisdom people keep talking about.

Just be happy. I understood in that moment that being happy is a state of mind. I can choose...I can decide to be happy regardless of the events in my life. After going through loss, setbacks, or the death of a loved one, I choose not to stay in sadness, grief or frustration. I acknowledge the loss, I am aware of the pain and the sadness and then I don't focus on what is wrong or missing anymore. I focus on gratitude. I am thankful for what I learned and the many blessings in my life.

I am happy. That is my choice.

Monday, November 12, 2012

No conflict

I leave the house each morning expecting no conflict. I find none. I could, but I choose not to. 

I am aware that others share the road I travel, that they have their worries, that they are sad, frustrated, scared, anxious, annoyed or hurt. Not everyone is feeling this way, I know. But the ones that are are the ones that need our compassion and understanding, whether they are right or not. This is about acknowledging their feelings and the resulting emotions and not reacting defensively to them. Aware of potential conflict, we disarm. When we answer to love, instead of our ego, we are powerful...we change the world one moment at a time. 

Sunday, November 11, 2012

I like you

I like you, just the way you are. Do you like yourself as well? You were created from perfection. You were created unique. You were created with a beautiful purpose and with meaning. I feel your presence, your thoughts, your feelings, your laugh, your spirit...without judgment. I see a reflection of all that is in you and I accept you as you are.

I offer this to all I come in contact with. It is true. It makes my heart light and my days better. The energy around me is uplifted and a wave of kindness, cheer and joy spreads... I feel peace in my heart. You can too.


Saturday, November 10, 2012

Love is a Battlefield

Pat Benatar says that love is a battlefield. I believe it doesn't have to be. This is just another wrong idea we have been convinced of. Love is not a battlefield.

Love and war are incompatible. War and peace cannot coexist. When the battle begins, I say surrender. Surrender, not to someone, but to a higher energy, a superior force.

Your ego is not going to like it, but only because you are thinking of surrender in terms of giving up and saying with your surrender that you are wrong, that you forgive. Surrendering to a higher energy clears the air in your battlefield for understanding and receptivity. Forgiveness will be necessary, but for now, just surrender, lower your stance and watch the other person's shoulders relax.

Ups and downs in your love battle will be normal and to be expected. By having this awareness of the power of surrender you will be able to acknowledge conflict when it arises and then let it go...surrender it. It is this practice that will bring you clarity of mind and peace of heart to receive the solutions to the battle. Be open to solutions that you have not imagined. In the realm of spirit, everything is possible and sometimes the alternatives to your problem may not be what you envisioned. Surrender your troubles. Trust the answers. Enjoy the love.

This higher energy–God, Universe, Abba, Creator, Spirit or any other name by which you call your higher-self–is in you. Pass on thoughts of frustration, disappointment and anger and reach within for your strength and thoughts of kindness, compassion and love for your spouse or partner and for yourself. Surrender and allow this higher energy to transform your battlefield into a love-field. Allow this energy to let love come through.

Friday, November 9, 2012

Pushing out of fear

We push out of fear. When we fear what we don't know and don't understand we sometimes act rashly, led by our emotions–trying to control the end result of something or someone's actions or reactions. We push situations, we push people. We figure that if we force a conclusion we will be certain of something–whether it is good or bad. We don't believe that waiting will yield us what we want or deserve. Yet instigating premature outcomes interrupts the unfolding of our destiny. We sabotage the possibilities.

Trust that a higher good is at work behind the scenes. Trust that there's a wisdom within that only time and listening can reveal. Patience, difficult as it may be, is necessary. Trust yourself and love yourself enough to stop pushing out of fear.


Thursday, November 8, 2012

Happiness is yours...

When our happiness, stability or sense of value hinges on a particular outcome, the opinion of others or a particular set of circumstances, we set ourselves up for emotional derailment. We've been there. Everything is going exactly right–we have an amazing job, our social life is on fire, our love life is nice and steamy, our children are gifted cherubs, the right political party is in place. Then one or more of these factors changes. Uh-oh! Anxiety, sadness and frustration kick in. We tend to feel this way because we have  identified with ever-changing distortions of our identity. When something doesn't end up as we hoped for, when others don't think we are golden anymore, when the rug gets pulled from under us, we don't change, we are the same. We have to remember that. What changed? Circumstances, opinions–not us. Seek within to uncover who you are, what your purpose is and passionately hold on to positive beliefs about yourself.

Who you are is true. Your purpose keeps you focused and worthy–it stems from who you are. Passionately holding on to positive beliefs about yourself keeps the circle going reminding you of who you are and what you are here to do. Rooted to who you are, you stay happy, stable and worthy.